World View Perspective: We are not our disappointments
As much as they continue to hurt us, haunt us, affect us or create and generate negative feelings within us, we are not our collected disappointments. We are taught to hide our disappointments from others so we won't appear weak or fragile. We are taught to swallow them not wallow in them. Yet, if we ignore them over time, they can sink us like a ship. They can become a whole 'voice' unto themselves that drown us in pain, over and over again. When our disappointments rise up in us we need to tell them to 'stop' and then consciously 'drop' them. Treat them like children continuing to 'tattle' on another child. When they start, just say, 'stop and drop' so the focus and emphasis ends. There are aspects within us that act like a living sabotaging agent. The old thoughts and feelings we carry can carry on disturbing and disrupting our true sense of self and our efforts to heal and feel whole again. Consider them our 'shadow self' that hopes to keep our system from opening to more and more of the true Light we carry. If these aspects of the past can thwart our conscious attempts to move forward, our old self wins and we become unable to expand our sense of self to become who we really are. In order to come out of the shadow, we have to know we are not the shadow. When disappointments threaten to take away your current levels of active, consciousness, stay vigilant with 'stop and drop' until they have no further need to distract you from your higher aspirations. Forgiving our selves and forgiving others is one of the best ways to release any and all accumulated disappointments. Disappointments are a heavy load to carry and they literally weigh us down unnecessarily. They hide in the corner of our emotional memory, as if they are not there, yet they will continue to sneak in on us when we least expect them to. Just like a parent who knows a young child might sneak out of their bed at night, stop the disappointments in their track and tell them to 'stop and drop', until our system feels more like it's true self. Saying over and over that we are not our disappointments is another way to show them something stronger than their distractions and collected 'voice' is who we are. It also lets us know we are not the past, which we are not. We can also love our disappointments for all they taught us ultimately and tell them the don't need to bother us anymore. Being clear we are not our disappointments, or anyone else's disappointments, is a step towards a healthier self and a truer self, which is what transformation is all about. We are our true self . . . and there is nothing disappointing in that!